Weekly Goals & Successes for the Week of January 25, 2016

Before I begin checking off what I accomplished of last week’s goals I want to share some successes from the less measurable parts of life. There are many parts of our lives that are not written into measurable goals, and this week was full of many such accomplishments.

This week we had many visitors. Last year this was one of the things I wrote goals for in anticipation of our return to Lebanon, but Have More Visitors Over to Our House is not a measurable goal in all honesty. The goal is one that I was happy we were able to accomplish this week. One of our visitors even cooked for us, so our messy kitchen was somewhat cleaned and allowed for her to come cook us delicious food! Another “visit” was actually a chance I had to send Davy with Louis for the day and go shopping with a friend.

This week Louis and I had a communication breakthrough. It has felt as though we were ships passing in the night in many conversations lately, but this week we had a conversation that turned it all around. God spoke, we listened, and our communication has changed drastically. There are no goals to break through the walls that build up sometimes. There is not always a book, prayer, or habit that can achieve a change in paradigm and perception, which was necessary here.

My guilt also took a big hit this week! I suffer from feeling guilty in situations that are ridiculous to feel guilty. Through several conversations (with the wonderful visitors throughout the week) several sentences pierced that darkness that is the shadow of guilt hanging around my shoulders like an invisible wet drape, weighing me down while no one can see it. One of my friends pointed it out with clarity, and it has changed my views already. Specifically in the area of tucking Davy in. The bedtime routine for Davy is long and parent laden, as often the case with a toddler when brushing teeth, using the potty, and getting dressed and undressed are all still dependent activities for him. Louis has been offering to help, but I have held onto it with white knuckled fingers. This week I gave Louis several days of the week to be completely in charge. Davy did not adjust well the first night, after Louis finished he started crying for me to come read him the Bible. I read him anywhere from 1 to 16 chapters of the Bible every night in addition to any stories he wants to read from his children’s Bible. I love that he wants to read them, that he asks for more when I think he is almost asleep. But there are some nights that I just don’t have the energy to read out loud 16 chapters of the ESV, 5 stories from his children’s Bible, and 3 children’s books. But when he begs for the Bible is when that guilt cloud laughs maniacally at me because Satan twists the truth, “You have to read him the Bible, otherwise he will lose his love for it and it will be all your fault.” I truly believe that this is an opportunity that will pass, but that is because eventually I won’t be reading to him at all before bed, and he will be able to read to himself eventually, and will discover so many books. The Bible might not always be his favorite. However, Louis getting to tuck him in and work on memory verses with him is a special time, too. So, goodbye guilt! (At least on this)

Finally, this week was full of fellowship and the possibility of friends. I normally say, “I have enough friends” which is a good way to remember not to be a people pleaser, and to focus on what God is calling me to regardless of who would be happy with that idea. It helps me to say the truth instead of buttering people up. However, this week I feel like I gained some more friends, some of that cup overflowing David talks about in Psalm 23. I attended a baby shower and met other women my age, with kids around my kids’ ages, and I spoke with them easily. I was so blessed to be there and to recognize the hope and joy that is ahead. Some of them attend the church we have started attending, so Sunday our kids even played together! Yay God!

Last Week’s Goals

Bible Reading Lists: With my new plan to give Louis two nights (at least) a week of tucking Davy in, I am also going to take two nights off from “Required Reading” of my Bible lists. I might still read the Bible those nights, but if I don’t I want my goals to reflect a more reasonable plan.

    List 1: New Testament—1 Corinthians 13—16 (End), Mark 1-11 12-16, 2 Corinthians 1—8

    List 2: Acts 8—13, 14

    List 3: Prophecy—Jeremiah 19—24, 25

    List 4: History—1 Samuel 11—14, 15-17

    List 5: Law—Numbers 20—25, 26

    List 6: Wisdom—Proverbs 14—18, 19-20

Reading for Self & Marriage:

    Read 2 books. I took last week’s goal setting and knowing that, if every week I fail to meet my exact percentages, eventually there will come a day that I feel like I am failing and will forget the joy of reading. The percentages help me because I also look at my blog to remind myself of my goals. This is where I write it. So, I am going to loosen up the way I write some of the thicker, headier, tougher books’ goals. It may seem crazy to read so many books at once, but I need a whole week to process each chapter sometimes, so here are books from many different fields that I want to read 1 chapter of each this week.

Read 1 Chapter of Serving as Senders Today: How to Care for Your Missionaries As They Prepare To Go, Are On The Field And Return Home by Neal Pirolo (88% Remaining)
I did not entirely finish chapter 1, but Louis and I did have our meeting together about how to do the Blog Study, so I was able to start working on using the book, which I think was just as important as reading it. Read 9%.

Read the remaining 12% of A Time to Grieve: Comforting and Counseling Those Who are Grieving by Robyn Ledwith Mar

Read ½ – 1 Chapter of Dispensationalism: Essential Beliefs and Common Myths by Michael Vlach This book is for my marriage goal to read a book with Louis, so he is reading it to me and explaining it to me. (85% Remaining)

Begin Book 2 of The History of the Moravian Church by Joseph Edmund Hutton. Read 1 Chapter.(I previously read Book 1, which brought me to 32% of the book complete.) Read 2%.

Begin The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. Read 1 Chapter I read the Preface, which was full of the testing and reasoning behind the book. I retook the test which I had taken last year. Last year I had been on the fence about whether or not HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) was what I was dealing with, but now I am sure of it. Some of the questions I had answered last year with pride, but now that I have been self reflecting for a year I recognize that there are things I do to prove to myself I am not affected when I actually am. Read 11%

Read 1 Chapter of Overcoming Missionary Stress by Marjory F. Foyle (95% Remaining) I actually read only 2 pages = 1%.

Find books for each of the remaining categories in Light Reader of my Reading Challenge: Biography, Book With the Word “Gospel” in the Title, Book Your Pastor Recommends, and Book About a Current Issue, Bedtime Book (One that is not heady or tough, but light and fluffy to read on my way to sleep) I didn’t really even think about this goal until Friday night, and then we ran out of internet over the weekend, so I couldn’t search, but I also came to the conclusion that for some of these categories I am just overthinking it, and when it comes to choosing a new book I will have to just choose.

Also read:

Grace Among Thieves (A Manor House Mystery Book 3) by Julie Hyzy 100%

The Magician’s Elephant by Kate DiCamillo 21%

Smoothies for Kids: Quick and Easy Healthy Meals for Children by Jake Rhodes 100%

State of the Onion (A White House Chef Mystery Book 1) by Julie Hyzy 19%

9% + 12% + 2% + 11% + 1% 100% + 21% + 100% + 19% = 2 ¾ books this week!

Blogging:

    This time with Louis and I agreeing about the goals on our shared blog before I post them.

    Lisses to Lebanon: Create a year long blog plan

    Both: Advertise / explain the study for Serving as Senders Today: How to Care for Your Missionaries As They Prepare To Go, Are On The Field And Return Home by Neal Pirolo

Mommy Book Blog: Post about Memverse & Bikini Body Mommy

This week these last two goals just turned out to be unreasonable. We were very busy, and I think that I will just keep working on getting them out this week.

Marriage/Routines:

Office Hours Plan for this week with Louis:

Have “Office Hours” at least 20 min. five days this week with a topic for each meeting.

  1. Blog Plan
  2. Serving as Senders Blog Study Plan
  3. Guest House Binder
  4. Make Over Your Calendar
  5. Wild/Free Choice
  6. Staffing the Guest Houses
  7. Defining Office Hours & Summary/Conclusion of Other Office Hours Discussions

We did have Office Hours every day this week and it was so helpful. It put us on the same page and started to give us the full picture in areas of work. Louis mostly led, so the two that I have more control over didn’t get discussed. I realized that Louis came thinking about those things and ready to discuss them, so I will have to do that with my topics as well.

This Week’s Goals:    

Bible Reading Lists:

    List 1: New Testament—2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians 1

    List 2: Acts 14-18

    List 3: Prophecy—Jeremiah 25-29

    List 4: History—1 Samuel 15-19

    List 5: Law—Numbers 26-30

    List 6: Poetry—Proverbs 19-23

Reading:

    Read 2 Books. I am not going to set any goals for specific books, I will just post what I accomplish at the end of the week. I am posting where I am at in each in progress book to record how far I get in them for my fun percentage math.

State of the Onion (A White House Chef Mystery Book 1) by Julie Hyzy 19%

Overcoming Missionary Stress by Marjory F. Foyle 4%

The Magician’s Elephant by Kate DiCamillo 21%

Serving as Senders Today: How to Care for Your Missionaries As They Prepare To Go, Are On The Field And Return Home by Neal Pirolo 21%

Dispensationalism: Essential Beliefs and Common Myths by Michael Vlach 16%

The History of the Moravian Church by Joseph Edmund Hutton 35%

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. 11%

Blogging:

    Louis and I met about blogging over the weekend and I feel like I can have a Fresh Start here.

Both Blogs: Advertise / explain the study for Serving as Senders Today: How to Care for Your Missionaries As They Prepare To Go, Are On The Field And Return Home by Neal Pirolo

Mommy Book Blog: Post about Memverse & Bikini Body Mommy

Office Hours with Louis:

    Serving as Senders

    Blog Planning

    Orientation/Guest House Binder

    Make Over Your Calendar

    Wild/Free Choice

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Author: Annie Liss

Currently a mother and a wife who loves reading. Formerly a middle school math teacher who kept too busy and stressed out to read. My husband and I are missionaries in Lebanon.

3 thoughts on “Weekly Goals & Successes for the Week of January 25, 2016”

  1. Annie, thanks for letting me be one of your guests last week. I wish we had even more time together because I enjoyed getting to know you more!

  2. Praying for you Annie. We love you guys and miss you all. Aidan & I read The Magicians Elephant by Kate DiCamillo and we loved it, we have enjoyed most of her books. So hope you enjoy it. We are praying for you all.

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